CFP MONTHLY TIDBIT: December 2014
“HOLIDAY STRESS ”
Christmas and the winter holidays are sometimes called the “anxiety season “. Too often, stress or bouts of depression accompany our holiday celebration. Recognizing and managing these problems, can enhance our enjoyment of the holiday season.
Family Gatherings: When there is unresolved conflict in the family, stress may arrive along with relatives for holiday visits. Fear of re-igniting old feuds can cause unnecessary tension during the holidays. Having happy family visits requires planning and a willingness to change worn-out patterns that may be stressful. There are no perfect relatives so prepare for going home or having holiday visitors by . . .
. talking out your expectations for the visit in advance with your spouse or close friend.
. accepting differences between yourself and family members; relationships are more important than making a particular point.
. keeping a sense of humor so you can laugh at the little things.
. having mutual respect for the difference in values and needs of the different generations in the family.
You and your loved ones can provide each other with more than good food and fun times during the holidays: You can help one another become healthier and live longer. Recent research shows that people who have close ties to frlends and family are physically and psychologically healthier than loners. The simple presence or human touch of another person has been proven to be calming, lowering blood pressure and heart rate, helping extend our lives.
Exchanging presents is supposed to be fun, but too often, it makes us feel anxious and insecure. The gifts we give make statements about our relationships; they’re a form of communication. Gifts can say not only “I love you”’, “I wish you happiness“, but “I’m sorry I’ve neglected you”, “Let’s pretend everything’s okay”, or “See how successful I am”.
Different people have different gift giving styles; giving cash is less personal than giving a gift that reflects intimate knowledge of the recipient’s interests and tastes. Really listen to what your loved ones say and observe what they enjoy. The gifts you give as a result won’t be any more costly, but will probably be a lot more meaningful: they’ll say, “I care enough to learn who you are and what you like”.
Examine your motives before you go shopping. Don’t overspend trying to create an idealized vision of what you think the winter holidays should be and then wake up in January stressed-out by the debt. Remind yourself that some of the most valuable gifts are those you can’t buy. Share your time and friendship with people you love:
. Give a “private time” coupon to your child, good for a day in which you’ll do whatever s/he wants.
. Put together a photo album of your family for a relative living far away. Ask family members to write personal captions and memories.
. Share your talents. Set aside time to teach a friend how to bake bread, knit, paint or whatever you do best.
. Express your love. Give your family the caring words we all love to hear but too seldom say.
Latest News: We are pleased to congratulate the original founders of The Center For Psychotherapy: Barbara Metz, PhD and Peter Wohlwend, M.Div., on their recent and well-deserved retirement July 1, 2014! We would also like to welcome the addition of four, new, yet experienced and talented psychotherapists whom have chosen to join our group: Thomas Kebba, MA, Julie Albert, LCSW, Karla Townsend, MA, LMHC, LPC, NCC and Heather Kitchen, LSCW!
Location: We are located in a historic home at 912 North Elm Street in the Fisher Park section of Greensboro, North Carolina. (Near the intersection of N. Elm and Bessemer Ave.) The Center has a relaxed and inviting atmosphere designed to make our clients feel safe and at ease. We have ample parking and are on the Greensboro City bus line.
Mailing address: 912 North Elm Street, Greensboro, NC 27401
Phone: (336) 274-4669 Fax: (336)- 274-4749